Thursday 4.21.11 Lenten Reflection by Terri Blythe

Terri Blythe became a member of The Church of the Resurrection in March of 2009. She currently serves as a small group leader in the church’s Group Life ministry.

I have been in church my whole life. I truly believed in God, and in the marriage vows I took at the young age of 19. I knew early on in my marriage that the man I chose to marry was not the best fit for me. However, I stuck with it as that is what I had promised to do. I spent 18 years loving a man who wouldn’t go to church with the kids and me. He was very controlling, but church was the one thing that I stood up to him on. I knew that I had to have that in my life or he would take everything away from me. God kept me grounded during those 18 years and helped me cope with the way my life had turned out.

Finally, God opened my eyes to what was happening in my life and our kid’s lives. I realized I didn’t have to stay in that hurtful, destructive marriage. I didn’t want my husband belittling our daughters as he had me over the years. I didn’t want them to think that it was okay for a man to treat a woman that way. Once I decided to ask him to leave, it was as if a HUGE load had been lifted off my shoulders. I knew then that I had made the right decision.

I spent a lot of time reading the Bible and doing a Disciple I class in my church, studying and listening to what God had to say. I was trying to figure out what I had done wrong and where my life was suppose to go from here. I had been a leader at work, but in my personal life I was very quiet and reserved. I was asked to lead a singles group at our church. That turned out to be a great experience for me and helped me get back on track after my divorce.

It took me a while to figure out who I actually was again, but with help from God and family, life has turned out great. I’ve married the love of my life. Jake and I each had two daughters, and we each have a grandson. I’m currently leading a small group here at Resurrection, and I feel truly blessed to be a part of that group. I know God is with us each and every day.

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